What to think when a clinic removes a popular blog from its own blog list when an Intended Parent is facing problems and wants to talk about them publicly? I will never understand this - surrogacy is not always a smooth process, and I think that it's better to be open and honest about what everyone goes through. It's not shameful to have a complex pregnancy, from a clinic OR an IP standpoint. Pregnancies here in the states encounter complications and unexpected costs and emotional turmoil, what is the shame of talking about it? When someone reaches out with concerns or disappointments or sadness, why is the clinic removing the blog instead of talking the concerns through? This raises HUGE red flags all over the place. I tend to look at sites that feature all "happy happy" throughout the process as dishonest, because we are all smart enough to know that it's just not true.
So, on the blogs that I will set up for my own surrogacy sites will be open to ALL bloggers going through surrogacy, the good, the bad, the ugly. We have things to talk about, and we should be able to put things out there without fear of reprisal from the clinics who are taking care of our babies and the women who are carrying them.
This has really and truly upset me, and I feel like I have to talk about it. My own blog has been removed from a site, but that's okay with me, I knew it would happen because I'm not just talking about pleasantries of the industry, but about how we can make the industry better for all involved. Doctors who have nothing to hide support this, and encourage it, and they will follow my blogs happily. We're a vast community with varying experiences. And this is a HUMAN experience and we will have HUMAN emotions, this is not just "big business" to many of us, and that needs to be recognized, not diminished.
Okay, off the soap box for today, I just have had enough of "pumpkins and flowers" and realize we all have things to talk about, so let's discuss and make this a better industry all around.
Kim
So, on the blogs that I will set up for my own surrogacy sites will be open to ALL bloggers going through surrogacy, the good, the bad, the ugly. We have things to talk about, and we should be able to put things out there without fear of reprisal from the clinics who are taking care of our babies and the women who are carrying them.
This has really and truly upset me, and I feel like I have to talk about it. My own blog has been removed from a site, but that's okay with me, I knew it would happen because I'm not just talking about pleasantries of the industry, but about how we can make the industry better for all involved. Doctors who have nothing to hide support this, and encourage it, and they will follow my blogs happily. We're a vast community with varying experiences. And this is a HUMAN experience and we will have HUMAN emotions, this is not just "big business" to many of us, and that needs to be recognized, not diminished.
Okay, off the soap box for today, I just have had enough of "pumpkins and flowers" and realize we all have things to talk about, so let's discuss and make this a better industry all around.
Kim
